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The 5th Birthday Bake

April 6, 2018April 6, 20181 Comment

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Today we join many others in lockdown. Before you complain about missing a hair appointment or not being able to buy a new outfit, take a minute and think about the families missing a member. Unless the guidance changes, we will be without access to my stepson, my partners son for at least 3 weeks. I have been very excited to have finished my greenhouse today, which is full off seeds to plant with monster. Monster and I were so excited we actually started a couple last week. Today I got everything ready for his arrival tomorrow and honestly I am devastated. My partner is devastated. This really could have been avoided by idiots staying the fuck home. #stayhome #sharedcustody #heartbreak #lockdown #isolation #coronavirus #covid_19 #blendedfamily #unmarriedstepmum #stepmom #misshimalready #stepson

Ah covid-19 what a joyous time we’re all having. EVERYTHING is difficult and challenging right now and we are not yet in lockdown in the UK or really have many major changes compared to most of the world. But the one thing which we know may be complicated is child access arrangements. How are stepmum a of the UK handling it so far? We’re BAU for now but sure it will be discussed soon. Global stepmums - how are you holding up? Are you enjoying regular access or experiencing new issues? Sending lots of love and positivity- keep safe, be cautious and wash your bloody hands 💙💙 #blendedfamily #stepmum #stepmom #stepkids #stepson #stepmomsofinstagram #custody #childaccess #covid_19 #lockdown #itscomplicated #coronavirusuk #coronavirus #staysafe

Let’s be honest, sometimes being a stepmum is hard, sometimes it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. On those days it’s easy to start wondering why you keep trying and to think of giving up, making less effort and trying to stop caring. Sometimes it’s effortless, joyful and easy. On those days you forgot how hard you work and how many sacrifices you’ve made and continue to make to make your family thrive. Whether today is a tough day or a beautiful day - never lose your WHY. There is a reason we are here, in the relationships we are in and bonding with the children we have grown / are growing to love. If the tough days are becoming too frequent, hang in there, take some time out and reset. Do whatever it is you need to do to bring peace to your mind and a growing joy to your heart 💙❤️💙 #stepmum #unmarriedstepmum #stepmom #stepmomsofinstagram #bonusmom #blendedfamily #theresarainbowaftertherain #stepfamily #family #stepkids #familylife #blendedfamilylife

Had a minor freak out at Monsters teacher today... We’ve had really good access for about 3 years now, but when his teacher saw me and said “oh he isn’t here now” I was right back 3.5 years ago at the start of our Monsterless 6 months. A look of horror crossed my face as I exclaimed “he’s already been collected?! By who?!?!?” Instant panic coursed through my body - I could physically feel it rushing in the 2.5 seconds before she replied “oh no, he’s here just not in the classroom, let me go and get him”. Of course his current teacher doesn’t know our speckled history and nor does she need to... but she probably does now think I’m a ridiculous drama queen! 👸🤦🏻‍♀️ Funny how the things we think we left behind can come flooding back in the space of such an innocent sentence! #Unmarriedstepmum #stepmum #stepmom #stepson #panicmode #overreaction #lettinggo #custody #childcustody #fml

Every Christmas in a blended family (hell even a nuclear family) brings its own challenges and joys, sometimes the balance tips one way and sometimes the other. After a year of bad health and 2 days planned with HCMIL, I am not looking forward to Christmas this year, in fact I am dreading it. Usually I would be super excited by this point, but honestly my mantra has been “I just need to get through Christmas...” and that’s ok. I am excited to see Monsters face on our Christmas morning (Christmas Eve) and I’m looking forward to the post Christmas holidays. I don’t expect to have a great Christmas this year, I have set my boundaries and I will be sticking to them and I will do my best to enjoy all the little moments I can. If you’re having a similar year, please don’t feel guilty and try not to get wrapped up in the pressure for everything to be perfect - life isn’t perfect the other 364 days of the year either! As ever your health and wellbeing must come first and you must protect yourself before anything else. Happy holidays!!! ❤️❤️ #blendedfamily #mentalhealth #unmarriedstepmum #christmas #christmasplanning #stepson #family #oknottobeok

Honestly it’s not the most balanced piece and it leaves a lot unsaid... BUT there’s an article in @womanandhome about blended families at Christmas! Normalising the non-nuclear family in media is something I feel very strongly about and it makes me so happy to see thought being given to blended family dynamics in the holidays. #blendedfamily #nonnuclearfamily #stepmum #stepfamily #unmarriedstepmum #christmasiscoming #holidays

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