Ask any stepmum about their most stressful time of year and I'm confident the vast majority will mention two things; Step kids birthdays..... and...... Christmas (I'll include thanksgiving here too for the USA based) As it's December and monsters birthday falls in March, of course I'm talking Christmas today. Christmas/ the whole festive season is … Continue reading Christmas Chaos
I love my stepson – it was once a choice to try but now it is as natural to me as I imagine his own fathers love for him is, and I certainly couldn’t decide to stop.
Most imperfect (read: all) 'blended families' will inevitably go through tough times where grown up issues or emotions have an impact on our little ones. In an ideal world, of course this would never happen - the adults would keep their issues with each other and allow the children to carry on with their 'normal' … Continue reading Accepting our different
Up until oh about 4 years ago, I was very focused on my career, I had aspirations to travel and work abroad and I definitely saw Director in my future job titles. I wasn't too bothered by work-life balance, I only was worried about getting recognition for the work I did and the hours I … Continue reading Changing Addresses and Priorities
It definitely sounds strange but one of the things I didn't expect in the early days (the unexpected list is an enormous one) was that when we were without our scheduled contact, I would come to really miss the little monster. It hits me at bizarre times, whether the conkers are falling from the trees … Continue reading Monsterless
The little monsters birthday cake has become something of a drama in our house - I enjoy baking and will occasionally attempt a bit of cake sculpting (see last years Dinosaur cake). Monsters birthday is in March.. we probably started talking about the cake in January and he was insistent that he wanted 'Bumblebee' (the … Continue reading The 4th Birthday Bake
Being a 'Step-Mum' in a world of 'Real Mums'
Bringing a child into my life didn't just impact me - it impacted my whole family. I have a pretty close knit family - I lived with my parents when I started dating my other half and have a close relationship with my two young cousins (then 2 and 4) and auntie and uncle who … Continue reading Whose family are we?
Helen, Hel, Helen Belen, Hells Bells, Mummy, Mama, MamaBear, Stepmummy, Mama Helen..., the list of names the little monster calls me is a very long one. I remember, around a year or so ago, the first stage of the monster calling me 'Mummy', honestly I was pretty horrified and extremely uncomfortable with just the concept … Continue reading What’s in a name?
How my partner and I learned to become parents to my Stepson together.